Ive gotta quote this because its a total representation of stuff I feel, and people often ask:
Most women who have Daddy fantasies say they are not envisioning their actual fathers, but rather the gestalt of Daddy: An authority figure who doles out punishment but also protects and nurtures. Likewise, we don't necessarily see ourselves as children in the scene, but rather *powerless sex objects wholly at the mercy of someone stronger than ourselves—just as in any scene involving dominance and submission. In the Daddy fantasy, chronological age is irrelevant: a mentality comes into play that is ageless.